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People regret having kids far more than having gender-affirming surgery

People regret having kids far more than having gender-affirming surgery
A new study looked at regret following gender-affirming and other surgeries, and major life decisions
A new study looked at regret following gender-affirming and other surgeries, and major life decisions
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A new study looked at regret following gender-affirming and other surgeries, and major life decisions
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A new study looked at regret following gender-affirming and other surgeries, and major life decisions
The purpose of gender-affirming surgery (GAS) is to align a person's physical characteristics with their gender identity
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The purpose of gender-affirming surgery (GAS) is to align a person's physical characteristics with their gender identity
The researchers say that a discussion about regret should be a part of all pre-surgical processes
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The researchers say that a discussion about regret should be a part of all pre-surgical processes
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A new study has found that the level of regret reported by transgender individuals following gender-affirming surgery is less than 1%, which is significantly lower than the regret associated with having children, getting a tattoo, or undergoing plastic surgery.

Regret is negative emotion characterized by feelings of disappointment, sadness, or remorse over a past action or choice, often accompanied by a desire to make a different choice. In the medical setting, regret can follow a decision to pursue treatment, and, in recent years, a lot has been made of the regret that transgender individuals feel after undergoing gender-affirming surgery (GAS).

New research by the University of Wisconsin’s School of Medicine and Public Health has examined rates of regret among patients who’ve had GAS as compared with regret by those who’ve had plastic and other surgeries and those who’ve made other major life decisions.

“Importantly, this systematic review does not seek to equate the decision to undergo gender affirming surgery to other elective surgeries or decisions, but instead aims to provide a framework to understand feelings of regret through a broader life experience,” said the researchers.

The purpose of gender-affirming surgery (GAS) is to align a person's physical characteristics with their gender identity
The purpose of gender-affirming surgery (GAS) is to align a person's physical characteristics with their gender identity

The purpose of GAS is to align a person’s physical characteristics with their gender identity. The types of operations that fall under GAS include facial surgery, “top” or chest surgery, and “bottom” or genital reconfiguration surgery. Undertaking this type of surgery is a choice that some individuals make as part of their gender affirmation journey, alongside hormone therapy and transitioning socially. However, some politicians, activists, and pundits argue that many transgender people who undergo this type of surgery come to regret it. It’s often used as a basis for restricting access to gender-affirming care. But is the argument a sound one?

The majority of the studies included in the researchers’ review focused on patients’ regret after plastic surgeries, including breast reconstruction (recreating the breasts after surgical removal), breast removal surgery (mastectomy), breast augmentation (breast implants), and body contouring (removal and tightening of excess skin). Regret was either reported as a percentage of total respondents, a numerical score on the Decision Regret Scale, or assessed qualitatively. The percentage of patients reporting regret following breast reconstruction ranged from zero to 47.1%, 5.1% to 9.1% after breast augmentation, and 10.82% to 33.3% after body contouring.

The researchers also examined previous research on regret following elective surgical procedures. A 2016 study of 837 women aged 25 to 45 who underwent tubal sterilization (a.k.a. tubal ligation, a surgical procedure that prevents pregnancy by cutting or blocking the fallopian tubes) found that 28% reported regret. In a 2020 UK study that explored rates of regret in 106 men following radical prostatectomy (removal of the entire prostate and surrounding tissue to treat prostate cancer), 30% reported “high regret” after surgery. For these men, regret was associated with lower sexual function scores.

The researchers also looked at regret following non-surgical major life decisions. When, in 2013, the Gallup Organization asked Americans over 45 with children how many children they’d like to have if they could “do it over again,” 7% of respondents chose "no children." Regret after getting tattooed was 16.2% according to a 2015 study conducted in New Orleans.

And what of regret following GAS? According to a retrospective Dutch study that followed transwomen and transmen from 1972 to 2015, 0.6% and 0.3%, respectively, reported feeling regret after GAS. Those behind that study divided the reasons for participants’ regret into three categories: true regret, or regretting having the surgery; social regret, which involved loss of contact with loved ones or being fired from a job because of the surgery; the third category included participants who reported feeling non-binary and no longer satisfied with their surgical result.

A systematic review and meta-analysis in 2021 assessed 27 studies, totaling 7,928 transgender individuals who’d undergone GAS, and found that 1% expressed regret. The most common reason for post-op regret was “difficulty/dissatisfaction in life with the new gender role.” Another common reason was the failure of surgery to achieve an individual’s aesthetic goals. A 2023 study by the University of Michigan found that after a gender-affirming mastectomy, 139 participants reported a Decision Regret Scale score of zero more than three years after the surgery.

The researchers say that a discussion about regret should be a part of all pre-surgical processes
The researchers say that a discussion about regret should be a part of all pre-surgical processes

“This systematic review highlights that regret following gender-affirming surgery is remarkably low, below 1%, compared to various elective surgeries and important life decisions,” said the researchers. “The findings challenge the restrictive narrative based on regret as a reason to limit access to gender-affirming services.”

The researchers said that the low rate of regret after GAS might be attributable, at least partially, to the stringent prerequisites that patients have to complete before being scheduled for surgery, which include the support of a mental health professional.

The researchers recognize that regret reported after any surgery is likely to be underestimated as patients don’t seek additional care, are lost to follow-up, don’t share their dissatisfaction with their surgeons, or go elsewhere for additional care. An additional consideration is that for individuals in the transgender community, any expression of regret might be weaponized against that community.

Discussions between patients and their surgeons regarding regret should be part of the preoperative process for all patients, the researchers said.

“Postoperative regret should be included in all discussions with patients in the informed consent process, not just in gender affirmation surgery,” they said. “The multifactorial nature of regret inclusive of gender identity, social and sexual relationships, goals and expectations of the surgery, and potential complications should be embraced as part of the decision-making process so patients can make the best decision for themselves.”

The study was published in The American Journal of Surgery.

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Techutante
Look, you know at a pretty young age if you want to Take it or Give it. But you never know if you want to be responsible for a human being for 18-30 years in a world over-run by burning, flooding, tornadoing, etc. I kinda regret even having cats, because they are an emotional anchor. It would be far easier to just be a sociopath without connections who can leave town and go on a month long vacation without worrying about another living being. Anyway TL/DR you know if you're trans and if we lived a few years ago 20 years ago I'd be trans too. Not now though, if you come out as trans right now you're painting a target on your forehead. So do it quietly and tell nobody is my advice. But do enjoy your life. It's much shorter than you think it is.
Arandor
Yet the suicide rate for people having kids is dramatically lower than the suicide rate for people who've had "gender affirming care".
Christian
Arandor is onto something.
The rewards of children take years to materialize, while the consequences of gender affirming care take years to reveal themselves. Anything sexual (which gender affirming care is, it can't be anything else when you're modifying your reproductive organs) can feel good for a while.
Give it a decade and the truth becomes really, painfully obvious. Not 1-3 years. Even the worst relationships can seem fun and exciting for that long.
Nelson
At least they are not adding to a too huge humanity. The planet needs more humans like you need cancer.
Cymon Curcumin
If I read that correctly (I have a bad habit of skimming), they didn’t focus on genitalia reassignment surgery which tends to have the higher rate of severe complications and is often over sold as to it’s potential results.
MantisShrimpGiant
The rate of suicide was mentioned below.
This is a powerful gauge that should not be ignored, but as someone who has a lot of experience in life with people who deal with mental illness and other major, impactful issues, a feel better comparison would be comparing transgender people who receive no gender affirming care to those who do receive care including hormone therapy and surgery.
You wouldn't claim cancer treatment doest work because 1/10 of the cancer patients died, If 4/10 those who didn't receive treatment also died from cancer. You also wouldn't claim treatment for schizophria don't work by comparing suicide rate of people who have it to people who don't. You would look at how treatment impacts the suicide rate. You need an applicable base line for a fair comparison.
The General U.S. population has a suicide attempt rate of around 4.5 to 5% over their lifetime and about 14.5 deaths per 100,000 people a year. This is the general population base line.
People with severe diagnosed mental illness attempt suicide at 15%–50%+ and the death rate is aproximatley 12.5 × higher than the general population. Severe depression and bi-polar disorder and schizophrenia are near the top of the list. Treatment can generally reduce suicide attempts and death rate by 40%-50% or more.
Transgender people (overall with or without treatment) have a very high suicide attempt rate (up to 40%) 7-8× general population.
However, those Transgender peoplereceived gender affirming care attempted suicide less. The attempted suicide rates drop by half ( about 10% –20% lifetime ) and there is a similar reduction in death from suicide. Treatment is reducing suicide by rate and death rate 50%.
An interesting comparison and study would be to look at suicide rate of those showing some regret after gender affirming care to those transgender people who never received care.
Based on the numbers I have seen, the right care for the right people is not only improving quality of life, but reducing death/suicide dramatically.
Lastly, it is generally quite difficult to pursue gender affirming care with often years of living as the opposite sex and hormone therapy before any permanent surgery is permitted.
The level of pre-vetting and qualification to approve someone for this type of treatment is higher than almost any other type of medical treatment. The medical community should apply a little this type of qualification process to those people who go overboard on plastic surgery and walk around with duck-lips for the rest of their lives. People with general body dismorphia and seek repeated plastic surgeries to alter their appearance, over and over have higher suicide rates than the general population and more surgery doesn't actually seem to help.